Marital success/failure may be genetic… huh?

genesHow is this possible, you might say? How could relationship satisfaction be related to the genes one inherits from their father and mother? Well, there is certainly evidence from research studies dating back over the past 25 years suggesting there is such a relationship, according to a cover story article published in the February edition of the APS observer (Sleek, 2014). Much of this comes from studies of twins and from genetic analysis research where scientists attempt to relate behavioral dispositions such as monogamy and emotional sensitivity to genetic factors. Note that marital stability/satisfaction is certainly related to these and other dispositions/traits that people possess. The presumption here is that expressed genes affect, in conjunction with environmental factors, the personality traits and behavioral dispositions that greatly increase the likelihood of relationship satisfaction and marital stability.

Click below for the original article –

Genetically Ever After – Association for Psychological Science.

From the Mouths of Babes – A Manifesto for Separated Parents.

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Note: This is an excerpt from the following website – Divorce Aid.  It is excellent!

 

My Dream Mum and Dad

1. They would let each other see their children as much and as often as they can.

2. It would be great if Mum and Dad just got along – not even as friends would be ok.

3. They would encourage the children to have a good time with the other parent.

4. They would not swear at their children.

5. They might punish their children a bit if they are naughty and that’s OK. But they wouldn’t hit us.

6. They will appreciate and love their children by telling them so when they come up and stay or call up and talk.

7. They would try to create a home where the children would look forward to coming back and want to call them up.

8. They would talk about parent things with each other and not talk to the children about parent things.

9. They would swap or share birthdays and Christmases in a helpful way without getting angry with each other.

10. They would keep their promises to us.

11. They would not bad-mouth each other.

12. When they get angry with each other it messes up their love for us. Hating each other makes it harder for the children.

13. They would both talk to all our teachers – maybe not together though.

14. They would be really busy loving their children, not fighting over them. They would know that there was enough of their children to love and go around for everyone.

15. They would each sit down with their children from time to time and ask them “How is it going?” and “How could it be better?”

16. Parents should have to go for a tune-up from time to time for being separated parents. How else do they know how they are doing?

We were sent this piece but were not given any details of the author but would be pleased to publish details if informed.

P.S. Could be this: Taken from Narrative Mediation: A new approach to dispute resolution, J. Winslade and G. Monk (2002)

“The talk of the child in the market place is either that of his father or of his mother.”

Babylonian Talmud Sukkah 56b

 

The pain of non-custodial fatherhood

sad-man-and-rainThis is a story about a father who saves his daughter in a rowing accident (overturned boats) when she is young.  She is now 15 and he is in the hospital with her, at her bedside, because she has overdosed, on something.  This is a nice article detailing what it is like for another father who is on the sidelines in the life of his child (children).  It is a moving piece.  It was written by the Rev. David B. Smith and published on the Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP).  The pain of non-custodial fatherhood.

A Solution for Poor Teaching at Colleges and Universities

Boring University TeacherHow many times have you suffered through a lecture given by an instructor who, frankly, can’t teach?  An organizational psychologist at the renowned Wharton School gives his opinion about this state of affairs in the op-ed section of the New York Times.

The argument is built around a recently published study by Figlio, et al., (2014) showing that students in introductory classes consistently learn more from non-tenure track faculty compared to their tenured/tenure track counterparts.  The study implies that non-tenure track (read – temporary help in the academy) faculty are more skilled, and better, teachers than tenured/tenure track faculty.

My take on this is that there are plenty of tenured/tenure track faculty who are excellent teachers.  This excellent pool of teaching is probably greatly diluted by those whose sole focus is on research and grant writing.  Unfortunately, most faculty are required to teach with relatively little emphasis placed on quality.  Tenure track faculty at most large universities (MIT, Oxford, Harvard, and Cambridge, etc.) cannot become tenured unless they are running a highly visible research program.  Quality teaching and little or no research will not count.

There is far more to this situation than I have written here.   Here is the link for the excellent op-ed piece on this subject.  An excellent read for anyone interested in academia and the current state of affairs in higher education.

A Solution for Bad Teaching – NYTimes.com.